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VOL.VI : Issue 4 September 12, 2004
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Hi dear Parent,
I’m a little surprised to tell you that, across the northern planet Earth, school is in session again! Gracious, where did summer go? Well, wherever it went, I sincerely hope you spent some quality time with your liddle kiddle, no matter what her/his age.
Between working and chauffeuring your child to team practice or instructions of one sort or another, I wonder if there was ever just "quiet time" when the two of you took a walk, had a talk, discovered something wonder-filled or experienced an adventure... together?
Oh, I do hope so.
It’s very difficult when the parent/s work, especially in summer. On top of earning a living, you must also provide protection and entertainment for your child while you are away. How do you do all that?
I admire you so much.
Children don’t require a tremendous amount of one on one time with their parent, but if you can provide as little as fifteen minutes on a daily basis, at a special time. Make it a ritual. Make it SACRED.
In our family, after we said night prayers together, then I would visit each child’s bed for private, personal, special time. That’s when we’d discuss topics important to that child--a friend who was upset about something, an unfair teacher or coach, an upcoming school or church function, or the need to learn more about life and its many facets.
Whatever the time you choose, once you start, don’t stop. Let your child count on it; you count on it. That time is important to your child; that time is just as important to you!
Time spent with your spouse is also important. Don’t forget why you got married, please! I am determined to remind my EP parents... DON’T FORGET one another.
Here's an ebook to help. 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships Discover what the top 1% of couples know. Never have fights. Save your marriage. Grow deeply in love. http://hop.clickbank.net/?epsuccess/50secrets
Perhaps some romantic suggestions are in order. In that case I recommend 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets More Passion & Intimacy with Great Sex from Oprah Romance Expert. Tips will drive your man or woman wild. And that’s not a bad thing, you know? http://hop.clickbank.net/?epsuccess/mwebb
Last, if your marriage is getting stale, or if it’s ended and you are dating, 1000 Questions For Couples will help you discover answers to important questions BEFORE it’s too late.
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I have reviewed all these Michael Webb ebooks and think they are all quality products.
I have been busy this summer, too. I completed the new TEACH ME, I’M YOURS for parents of young children, to give them the skills for school success and for Life. It’s doubled in size and there are dozens of liddle kiddle cartoons sprinkled within the e-pages. I’ve included a terrific bonus when you purchase Teach Me, I’m Yours; we’ve created a great free coloring book filled with those darling cartoons so your child will have reminders of the skills s/he is learning. If you have young children, or know parents who do, please visit the Empowered Parent web site and click on the Teach Me, I’m Yours book cover.
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I also want to remind you of the excellent book KID SAFE that Pam Coronado and I co-wrote for parents to protect their child and teen from kidnappers and molestors. Pam is a private investigator specializing in finding lost and kidnapped children. The information can save young lives!
When you are at the web site http://www.EmpoweredParent.com
click on SHOPPING and you’ll be able to see all my new books. I wrote two more contemporary romances, one of them is a mystery.
EBON’S MATE is a mystery about a stalker determined to kill the college professor/hero. Ebon is a black swan who seeks his mate, just as Professor Nickolas does.
SOLAR SIZZLE is a contemporary romance about a couple who works in the alternative energy resource field; thus, the title!
So, Mommies and Grandmommies, if you like to read romances I hope you’ll try a free Chapter from any of the nine novels on my site.
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Boyohboy, do I ever like this one-liners:
Think outside the box. Never mind...smash the box.
Yes!!!!
Remember, dear one, I value you, right here, right now, in all you do.
Love,
Joan
p.s. Remember my dear friend B.L., who had to run for her life on 9/11? She wrote an extraordinary essay yesterday and I want to share it with you. Her courage is beyond belief.
http://www.whatsnextblog.com/archives/000484.asp
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Here’s a great reason for encouraging your child to study music. Here’s a way to make sure they stick with it. When they want to take music lessons so bad they will promise anything, that’s when you offer them a contract to study until the end of 8th grade. Then, when they whine after about a year and want to quit, you can calmly remind them of their contractual promise. No emotions. They have to honor their agreement, is all. They will evenually thank you for getting them to stay the course because at age 14 they will be very glad they possess the skill. :)
Signed: Wily Mama
Study of Music Improves Intellect
United Press International
Studying music improves intellect, as children who took music lessons have larger IQ increases than those who did not, a U.S. psychology journal reported.In the August issue of Psychological Science, a journal of the American Psychological Society, researchers at the University of Toronto provided evidence of the long-held notion that music lessons improve intellect.
They found children who took either keyboard or voice lessons had larger IQ increases after their studies compared to youngsters who took drama lessons or none at all. Children who took drama lessons did exhibit improvement in adaptive social behavior, however, where kids who received music lessons showed increases more across the board, such as in index scores and academic achievement.
The study followed 144 children at age 6 who were randomly assigned to take either keyboard lessons, voice lessons, drama lessons or none at all for one year. IQ tests were administered both before and after the lessons to examine the effects of extra-curricular activities on intellectual and social development.
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I couldn't wait for success, so I went ahead without it.
~ Jonathan Winters ~
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The Case Against Designer Kids!
Hyper-parenting is no favor to yourself or to your child
September 10, 2004 07:16 AM EDT
With my daughter beginning her senior year of high school this year, we spent some time this past summer on the Great American College Tour. All in all she has visited four colleges, which seems plenty enough to me. But that fairly pales by comparison with the itinerary of a good friend and his son who stayed with us on the Western leg of their visit to 18 different colleges.
Today the college tour, including its interview for the prospective student and information session for parents, has become de rigueur. Is this, however, a sign of what Dr. Alvin Rosenfield and his colleagues are calling, in their recent book, "hyper-parenting"? ("Hyper-Parenting: Are You Hurting Your Child By Trying Too Hard?")
According to Rosenfield, parenting is now "the most competitive sport in America." "If you can put a Harvard, Yale or MIT sticker on the back of the BMW, you've won." This overlooks the fact that a third of those admitted to four-year colleges do not graduate fours years later, and that at the most competitive schools various anxiety disorders -- from bulimia to depression -- are all too common.
The symptoms of hyper-parenting include the busy child, overscheduled children, who shuttle, or more accurately are shuttled, from one activity, class or program to another with no down time tolerated or allowed. Another symptom is out-of-control parental anxiety, expressed by near addiction to the latest "expert" advice. Moreover, hyper-parents are fairly driven to see their child achieve excellence in a sport, instrument or activity, preferably by age 7. Hyper-parenting skews the relationship of parents and children, as children are turned into products and performers and parents into managers and handlers.
My own pet theory about all this is that the smaller size of the contemporary family is a factor. Most parents are more anxious about their first child. We certainly were. But by the time parents get to their third or fourth, they are, if not wiser then at least too tired to be all that anxious. No, you are wiser. Experience does help. But since many parents today have but one or at most two children, fewer children have experienced parents and the general level of anxiety in society has risen.
In good American fashion various Web sites and articles are now blossoming with "tips for how to avoid hyper-parenting," which led me to wonder if you can become hyper about hyper-parenting? My hunch is that the problem is a deeper one than will be cleared up by naming the syndrome and giving yet another list of tips. It is deeper because what seems to be happening is that the overly competitive, driven and anxious ethos of much of adult society is simply filtering down, way down, down to womb and before with designer genes and genetic engineering.
It was in an article published this past spring in The Atlantic that I first noted the term hyper-parenting. There, author Michael Sandel argued, "The Case Against Perfection: What's Wrong with Designer Children, Bionic Athletes and Genetic Engineering." He suggests that a good part of what it means to be a parent is to be "open to the unbidden," that is to what we cannot control.
"In a social world that prizes mastery and control," observes Sandel, "parenthood is a school for humility. That we care deeply about our children and yet cannot choose the kind we want teaches parents to be open to the unbidden. Such openness is a disposition worth affirming, not only within families but in the wider world as well. It invites us to abide the unexpected, to live with dissonance, to rein in the impulse to control. A Gattaca-like world in which parents became accustomed to specifying the sex and genetic traits of their children would be a world inhospitable to the unbidden, a gated community writ large. The awareness that our talents and abilities are not wholly our own doing restrains our tendency toward hubris."
Parenting, like life, is a tricky business. Parents must strive for a balance between two kinds of love: accepting love and transforming love. The one affirms the being of a child and lets him be, while the other seeks his well-being and prods his growth. Hyper-parenting is an excess of the latter and a deficiency of the former. If some parents err by not asking or inviting enough of their children, others make the mistake of pushing too hard, asking too much. Finding the right balance is the key.
Certainly we can, and within reason, ought to offer challenges and opportunities for our children, but not with the idea that we can or should control the outcomes. The idea that we are or should be in control is not only a bad one, it is an illusion.
To see more of the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, for online features, or to subscribe, go to http://seattlep-I.com.
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Excerpt
The following is an excerpt from the book Raising a Secure Child: Creating an Emotional Connection Between You and Your Child by Zeynep Biringen, Ph.D.Published by Perigee; July 2004; $15.95US/$24.00CAN; 0-399-52994-2Copyright © 2004 Zeynep Biringen
The Impact of Your Childhood on Your Child
Your own sense of security as a child and how you think can have enormous effects on your child's sense of security with you. One interesting exercise is to ask, "What type of baby were you?" As documented in numerous research studies, we know there is a great similarity between the type of baby we raise and the type of baby we were (unless some major changes occurred within us during our adulthood to change our view of relationships). Parents who were raised in an openly communicative and sensitive manner in their own families are more likely to have secure babies. Parents who were raised to dismiss their feelings and not to value attachments tend to have babies who are avoidant. Parents who were raised in an environment where there was a lot of negative emotion, particularly anger, are more likely to have babies who are clingy and dependent, and many of these parents continue to feel anger toward their own parents.
The following questions will help you see whether you fit into any of these three categories. A majority of "yes" answers in any group identifies your category.
Secure Child Memory
1. Were you the type of baby and young child who sought out a parent immediately when you needed some comfort?
2. Do you remember being happy?
3. Do you remember getting a lot of positive attention and caring?
4. Do you remember finding it easy to connect with others, including parents and friends?
Insecure/Avoidant Child Memory
1. Were you the type of baby and young child who did not go to a parent when you felt sad, angry, or hurt?
2. Were you the type of baby and young child who grew up feeling like a loner?
3. Did you not have very many people you could turn to, or did you just not turn to others? Were you basically self-reliant or too reliant on yourself, sometimes despite your best efforts to be more connected with others?
4. Do you remember making efforts at closeness with a parent and feeling rebuffed or just not getting the type of response you, had hoped for?
5. Do you not remember much about your childhood, as hard as you might try?
6. Do you remember not being liked very much by your peers, either because you were aggressive at times or because you were a loner?
7. Do you feel that much of this discussion about feelings is "mumbo-jumbo" or "psychobabble"? Is this what your parents might say or have said about such self-assessment?
Insecure/Dependent Child Memory
1. Do you recall being very close to one parent (or more) to the point of what we call "symbiosis" or oneness with that parent?
2. Do you remember being an easily distressed sort of baby or young child?
3. Do you remember being overprotected or catered to a lot?
4. Do you recall that you were a bit younger than your age (you might still feel that way) -- not necessarily in terms of appearance, but more that people treated you as younger and didn't give you enough of a chance at responsibility?
5. Did you constantly need people around you, maybe for approval?
6. Did you constantly try to please others to the exclusion of even being aware of what your own emotional needs were?
7. Did you "take care" of younger siblings or a parent so that it seemed as if you were the parent or the roles were reversed?
Whether we were secure, avoidant, or dependent as children (recall that insecure/disorganized children typically show one of the other insecure patterns as a "core"), as adults we are free to adopt new ways of creating relationships with our own children.
Your Own Family History
People bring all kinds of personal history into parenting -- that's not a problem. The problem arises when we don't resolve those issues ourselves. Our own parents are often our only models of how to relate to children, so they usually have a powerful influence on us, no matter whether we want to emulate them or be completely different. As adults, we need to recognize the heritage we have brought with us from the family in which we ourselves were raised and to replicate what was good and eliminate what was not.
Social scientists Carol George, Nancy Kaplan, and Mary Main at the University of California, Berkeley, developed a state-of-the-art interview to assess parents' family-of-origin experiences (called the Adult Attachment Interview). The interview is very detailed and enables the interviewer to obtain information about the parent's experiences during childhood. It also does something quite tricky -- it can help us understand beyond the childhood experiences of parents by going beyond the surface of what they report. In other words, we gain information on both what they say happened as well as some things they might not consciously remember.
Taken from Raising a Secure Child (Perigee Books; $15.95) by Zeynep Biringen. Copyright © 2004 Zeynep Biringen
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War cannot be humanized, it can only be abolished. -- Albert Einstein
The ultimate oxymoron: "Holy War"
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FEED THE HUNGRY: http://www.thehungersite.com
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FOR PEACE ON OUR PLANET: We are not going to be able to operate our Spaceship Earth successfully nor for much longer unless we see it as a whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody. -Buckminster Fuller
NEXT ISSUE: More encouragement from EP Parents' Cheerleader!
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FROM BILL:
We are Angels born with but one wing,
In order to fly we must embrace one another.
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Till next time, don't forget -- Parenthood is Wonder-filled!
Fondly, Joan
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Hi dear Parent,
"School's out! School's out! Teacher let the mules out!" ;) A little ditty from my own childhood days, yelled at the top of our lungs as we lunge out the front door on the last day of school.
Summertime! Is the livin' easy, Parents?
Even in my kids' summers, there were swimming lessons in the early morning when their goose bumps got goose bumps in the chill of dawn.
I've told you about the craft class I had for the neighborhood kids and my own.
There was summer band practice and performing at different city parks weekly.
We had our annual Watermelon Party for everybody who didn't step on the grass till it was mowed twice.
Every Thursday we visited the library to get new books. In our town there is also a world-class zoo and art museum, both free.
The younger ones tested their entrepreneurial skills with a Koolaid stand. It was wonderful to see their serious intent as they raided the kitchen for Koolaid, sugar and buckets of ice cubes. It cost Bill and me a pretty penny to finance their stand, but it fed their hunger to earn their own money.
Encouraging self-motivation and pride of earning power are perhaps the most important "reality" type skills we teach our children because otherwise, they may stay home forever!!! ;)
Parents... Are you listening,please?
They also planned their annual Neighborhood Talent Show and their annual Neighborhood Yard Sale, just for the kids and the money was all theirs.
In-between, they learned how to garden, how to knit, stitch, sew, crochet, weave, climb trees, roller skate, build, and they honed their homemaking skills because everybody, and I DO mean, Everybody needs to know how to take care of him/herself.
To possess the skills necessary to become independent is a worthy goal, yes? How else will your son know how to do his laundry in college? How else will your daughter know how to change a tire? How will either know how to cook a decent meal so they don't get rickets from malnutrition?
Well, take a mother's word for it... It could happen!
I was lucky enough to be a stay-at-home Mom in the summer. I was the overseer, and the teacher, and the referee, but much of their day was spent with their peers, figuring out things, making plans -- BIG plans, practicing new skills and generally learning and doing what THEY wanted to do, not what the schools or Scouts or the Y told them to do.
Pretty neat, eh? :)
We also enjoyed going to drive-in movies with our freshly popped corn packed in a huge brown paper grocery bag and the leftover Koolaid from the afternoon drink stand.
Do they even have drive-in movies anymore? What a pity they were closed down because the land "out in the country" was no longer a distant place and the land got too valuable. Enter another strip mall. :(
The point I'm making here, dear Parent, is that decades ago, we still had very busy summers, but we were lucky that mostly we stayed home or went together as a family to lessons, field trips or new adventures.
Almost all of the above list cost us nothing monetarily. Time was what we spent; time is what the children needed. And if truth be known, it was just as good for us "big kids," too.
I sincerely hope you are able to spend more quality time with your child during the lazy, hazy days of Summer. Make time, if you have to, because remember what I say here: by tomorrow afternoon your child will be graduating from college.
Yes, it does go that fast!
Why not try keeping a Happy Book during this time? Both you and your child. A wise friend once told me that she kept a happy book. It contained hundreds of things she loved most -- things that made her smile and laugh. Each day, she made sure she did a few of the things in her happy book. This became a great way to replenish the energy consumed by the stresses of daily living.
To start your Happy Notes, and in case you and your family missed this spectacular vision of planet Venus passing before our Sun. It hasn't happened for 122 years. It happens in pairs, the second coming in 2012, eight years from now. But you look at this picture and if it doesn't take your breath away, well...
http://users.pandora.be/vcsb/dodi/sunquick2.jpg
The following is what I want you to discover for yourself, dear one. Slow down, take time, make some memories.
Http://thundercloud.net/acpressions/child-inside/
And this is how I feel about you and hope you will share the feeling with your child.
http://thundercloud.net/acpressions/butterflies/default.htm
Life is good! :) Remember, I love and value you, right here, right now, in all you do.
Love, Joan
P.s. On the 22nd I'm heading north to my Minnesota lake cottage. As I did last year, I'm taking the summer off from the EP eJournal. Time to fish and swim and rest. Except for some bulletins where I'll share a sunset or a big fish or a full moon, I won't be publishing till Fall.
I have several books to complete and that will be my business time, well spent, for the families I serve.
P.p.s. If you have young children or young grandchildren or know someone who does, raise your hand, please. Good!
I ask you to go visit my new web page devoted to the revised, expanded version of TEACH ME, I'M YOURS. Isn't the new bookcover outstanding? At the very bottom of that page you can download a F-R-*E-E TMIY Sampler, complete with a coloring page for the Liddle Kiddle. :) I had so much fun putting this together, and Sara Webmama created a fabulous new design. Go see for yourself, please. Then give it away to the World! Http://joanbramsch.com/book-teachme.html
P.p.p.s. Perhaps you have older children who love to cook and plan parties. Perhaps s/he'd like to see the brand new CATER YOUR WAY TO RICHE$ - new cover, expanded contents. Http://joanbramsch.com/books/cater.htm
Have a Safe Summer!
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Elder's Meditation of the Day
"Sell a country? Why not sell the air, the great sea, as well as the earth? Did not the Great Spirit make them all for the use of his children?"
--Tecumseh, SHAWNEE
The White Man's way is to possess, control and divide. It has always been difficult for Indian people to understand this. There are certain things we cannot own that must be shared. The Land is one of these things. We need to re-look as what what we are doing to the Earth. We are digging in her veins and foolishly diminishing the natural resources. We are not living in balance. We do not own the Earth; the Earth owns us. Today, let us ponder the true relationship between the Earth and ourselves.
Great Spirit, today, let me see the Earth as you would have me see Her.
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HELP PROTECT OUR WILDERNESS
Please go to
http://www.savebiogems.org/arctic/takeaction.asp?step=2&item=52141
and send a message telling your representative to oppose drilling in the Arctic
Refuge and to vote No on H.R. 4529 -- the bill that would authorize this
destruction.
Drilling in the Arctic Refuge would have absolutely no effect on today's gas
prices at the pump. Arctic oil would take 10 years to get to market and would
only amount to a tiny drop in the bucket of our nation's oil consumption -- not
nearly enough to impact prices.
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LIFE IS THE CAT'S PAJAMAS, LOVE IS THE BEE'S KNEES
Life's Loveable Instructions!
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Big Brother Invades Our Homes
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JOKE
The children were lined up in the cafeteria of a Catholic elementary school
for lunch. At the head of the table was a large pile of apples. The nun made
a note, and posted on the apple tray: "Take only ONE. God is watching."
Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end
of the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies. A child had written
a note, "Take all you want. God is watching the apples.
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WHAT THE BLEEP DO WE KNOW?
I hope to see this movie soon.
This is the most requested transcript from the movie "What The #$*! Do We Know?" http://www.whatthebleep.com/home/ And I have to say this process really works in remarkable ways!!!
I Create My Day
The most often referenced interview in the film is Dr. Joe Dispenza's comments on creating his day. In response to the numerous requests, the following is the transcript of that part of interview.
"I wake up in the morning, and I consciously create my day the way I want it to happen. Now, sometimes, because my mind is examining all the things that I need to get done, it takes me a little bit to settle down, and get to the point, of where I'm actually intentionally creating my day. But here's the thing."
"When I create my day, and out of nowhere, little things happen that are so unexplainable, I know that they are the process or the result of my creation. And the more I do that, the more I build a neural net, in my brain, that I accept that that's possible. Gives me the power and the incentive to do it the next day."
"So, if we're consciously designing our destiny, if we're consciously, from a spiritual standpoint, throwing in what the idea that our thoughts can affect our reality or affect our life, because reality equals life. Then, I have this little pact that I have when I create my day."
"I say, I'm taking this time to create my day, and I'm infecting the Quantum Field. Now, if it is in fact, the observer's watching me the whole time that I'm doing this, and there is a spiritual aspect to myself. Then, show me a sign today, that you paid attention to any one of these things that I created, and bring them in a way that I won't expect."
"So, I'm as surprised as the- as the- at my ability to be able to experience these things, and make it so that I have no doubt that its come from you. And so, I live my life, in a sense, all day long, thinking about being a genius, or thinking about being the glory and the power of God, or thinking about being Unconditional Love."
"I'll use living as a genius, for example. And as I do that, during parts of the day, I'll have thoughts that are so amazing, that cause a chill in my physical body, that have come from nowhere. But then, I remember that that thought has an associated energy, that's produced an effect in my physical body."
"Now, that's a subjective experience, but the truth is is that I don't think that unless I was creating my day to have unlimited thought, that that thought would come."
(Dr. Joe Dispenza in "What the #$BLEEP*! Do We Know!?" Http://www.whatthebleep.com/create/
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The Possibility of Miracles...
"The moment one gives close attention to anything, even
a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome,
indescribably magnificent world in itself."
- Henry Miller
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LETTER
Joan, I am so distressed. My sister's friend's husband is in the reserves and he's been called to
iraq. They have 3 kids. While he is overseas, he does NOT get his salary from his job. So the family is without income except what she will be able to provide after she finds daycare for the kids and care for her mother, who has alzheimer's and lives with them. No publicity about that
part of the great society! Our military is so abused! Makes my heart sick.
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And A Meadow Lark Sang
The child whispered, 'God, speak to me'
And a meadow lark sang.
The child did not hear.
So the child yelled, 'God, speak to me!'
And the thunder rolled across the sky
But the child did not listen.
The child looked around and said,
'God let me see you' and a star shone brightly
But the child did not notice.
And the child shouted,
'God show me a miracle!'
And a life was born but the child did not know.
So the child cried out in despair,
'Touch me God, and let me know you are here!'
Whereupon God reached down
And touched the child.
But the child brushed the butterfly away
And walked away unknowingly.
- Ravindra Kumar Karnani
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NOW HEAR THIS... SMACK!
Mosquito Remedy
Pass this on to anyone who likes sitting out in the evening or when
they're having a cook out. So you don't like those
pesky mosquitoes, especially now that they have the potential to carry
the West Nile Virus?
Here's a tip that was given at a recent gardening forum. Put some water
in a white dinner plate and add a couple drops of Lemon Fresh Joy dish
detergent. Set the dish on your porch, patio, or other outdoor area. Not
sure what attracts them, the lemon smell, the white plate color, or
what, but mosquitoes flock to it, and drop dead shortly after drinking
the Lemon Fresh Joy/water mixture, and usually within about 10 feet of
the plate. Check this out---it works just super!
May seem trivial, but it may help control mosquitoes around your home,
especially in the South and elsewhere where the West Nile virus is reaching
epidemic proportions in mosquitoes, birds, and humans.
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A good guru reminds you, G.U.R.U. - Gee you are you. Author Unknown
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LETTER
I hope that YOUR Mother's Day is everything that it should be and more, because God knows, YOU of all Mothers, deserve it!! Thank you for being the great inspiration, help and hope that you've been to me all these years. You honestly don't know how many times that you've pulled me through rough spots and kept me hanging in there. I am very grateful for you "Mother Joan!"
Your friend and protege forever,
Cindy
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HERE IS A FAVORITE POEM
Since we are intimately connected to everyone else in the universe, then it follows that attending to the needs of anyone ultimately redounds to our benefit. The Sufi poet Rumi put this concept in more lyrical language:
Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing,
there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase 'each other'
doesn't make any sense.
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Just completed your book. Excellent information and I am very glad you wrote the introduction chapters, too. You've packed a lot into those 99 pages. Love, Joan
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Dear Joan, Thanks for being willing to promote a sensitive, but very important subject.
Michael
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The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own. - Benjamin Disraeli
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LETTER
Dear Joan,
Thank you for EP. Your life is (not magic) but a miracle. I believe in miracles (and in you).
Love, Ellen
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A truly wise man never plays leapfrog with a unicorn. ...Nethack
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MONEY:
It can buy a House...............But not a Home
It can buy a Bed..................But not Sleep
It can buy a Clock................But not Time
It can buy you a Book..........But not knowledge
It can buy you a Position......But not Respect
It can buy you Medicine........But not Health
It can buy you Blood............But not Life
It can buy you Sex...............But not Love
So you see money isn't everything. And it often causes pain and suffering. I tell you all this because I am your Friend, and as your Friend I want to take away your pain and suffering......
So send me all your money..........And I will suffer for you.
CASH ONLY PLEASE!!!
Thought this was gonna be one of those "inspirational" ones, didn't you?
love, Joan
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LETTER
Dr. John D. Melville
>Subject: Thanks for the link
>Comments: Ms. Bramsch:
I noticed your link to the Akron Beacon Journal article about my time as a Med-Peds resident in Akron. Thank you so much for linkng my story. I fear at times that too many parents of disabled children sell their children short, either through not allowing them to try or by encouraging unrealistic expectations of being able to do \"anthing you want to do.\"
There are a certian number of people in this world who\'s view of reality does not include a disabled person finishing medical school and practicing medicine. It is always fun to meet these people and be introduced as Dr. Melville. The sudden shift in one\'s views about reality is rarely pleasent, but it is usually quite entertaining to watch.
To the extent that my story helps your parents better believe in the potential of their young, disabled children, our small efforts in recording it have been richly recompensed.
Thanks again for the link.
Sincerely,
John Melville, MD
Resident Physician
Akron General Medical Center, and
Children\'s Hospital of Akron
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Hi John,
Thanks for writing. I'm glad you're pleased. Best of all, I know how much your story will help EP Parents to help their children. When my five were young and we were out somewhere, like the mall or a public place, and we saw a disabled child, I taught them to go to them and talk to them. To let the child know we weren't simply going to stare. Sometimes the children asked questions. It seemed to be okay with the child. Sometimes we'd also talk to adults if they seemed approachable. If possible, we touched or shook hands. I always tho't this was very important because lots of people think a handicap is contagious! Big sigh.
As it turns out, my grown children are very active in their communities regarding all sorts of children. I feel blessed. Perhaps I did something right, eh? :)
Good luck in your profession, John, and happy anniversary this month. I shall publish our exchange here in the next EP Journal.
Love, Joan
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THREE LITTLE WORDS
3 Special Words
Dear John Doe
There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.
1. Let me help.
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways – that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3. I respect you.
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you". This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or
you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.
6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true
friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people.Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there". Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow theirdreams. Tell them to "go for it."
B o n u s:
11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words:"I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling, is gone.
12. GOD BLESS YOU!
(These are 3 words too, right?)
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Four All Who Reed and Right
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We'll begin with a box, and the plural is boxes;
but the plural of ox became oxen not oxes.
One fowl is a goose, but two are called geese,
yet the plural of moose should never be meese.
You may find a lone mouse or a nest full of mice;
yet the plural of house is houses, not hice.
If the plural of man is always called men,
why shouldn't the plural of pan be called pen?
If I spoke of my foot and show you my feet,
and I give you a boot, would a pair be called beet?
If one is a tooth and a whole set are teeth,
why shouldn't the plural of booth be called beeth?
Then one may be that, and three would be those,
yet hat in the plural would never be hose, and the plural of cat
is cats, not cose.
We speak of a brother and also of brethren,
but though we say mother, we never say methren.
Then the masculine pronouns are he, his and him,
but imagine the feminine, she, shis and shim.
Let's face it,
English is a crazy language.
There is no egg in eggplant,
nor ham in hamburger;
neither apple nor pine in pineapple.
English muffins weren't invented in England.
We take English for granted.
But if we explore its paradoxes,
we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square
and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea, nor is it a pig.
And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing,
grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham?
Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends,
but not one amend?
If you have a bunch of odds and ends
and get rid of all but one of them,
what do you call it?
If teachers taught,
why didn't preachers praught?
If a vegetarian eats vegetables,
what does a humanitarian eat?
Sometimes, I think all the folks who grew up speaking English
should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane.
In what other language do people recite at a play
and play at a recital?
Ship by truck and send cargo by ship?
Have noses that run and feet that smell?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same,
while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites?
You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which
your house can burn up as it burns down;
in which you fill in a form by filling it out
and in which an alarm goes off by going on.
~Author Unknown
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War cannot be humanized, it can only be abolished.
-- Albert Einstein
The ultimate oxymoron: "Holy War"
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FEED THE HUNGRY:
http://www.thehungersite.com
http://www.heifer.org/
FOR PEACE ON OUR PLANET: We are not going to be able to operate our Spaceship Earth successfully nor for much longer unless we see it as a whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody. -Buckminster Fuller
NEXT ISSUE: More encouragement from EP Parents' Cheerleader!
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In the meantime, here is an angel sent to watch over you for me.
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FROM BILL: We are Angels born with but one wing,
In order to fly we must embrace one another.
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Till next time, don't forget -- Parenthood is Wonder-filled!
Fondly, Joan
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Hi dear Parent,
"School's out! School's out! Teacher let the mules out!" ;) A little ditty from my own childhood days, yelled at the top of our lungs as we lunge out the front door on the last day of school.
Summertime! Is the livin' easy, Parents?
Even in my kids' summers, there were swimming lessons in the early morning when their goose bumps got goose bumps in the chill of dawn.
I've told you about the craft class I had for the neighborhood kids and my own.
There was summer band practice and performing at different city parks weekly.
We had our annual Watermelon Party for everybody who didn't step on the grass till it was mowed twice.
Every Thursday we visited the library to get new books. In our town there is also a world-class zoo and art museum, both free.
The younger ones tested their entrepreneurial skills with a Koolaid stand. It was wonderful to see their serious intent as they raided the kitchen for Koolaid, sugar and buckets of ice cubes. It cost Bill and me a pretty penny to finance their stand, but it fed their hunger to earn their own money.
Encouraging self-motivation and pride of earning power are perhaps the most important "reality" type skills we teach our children because otherwise, they may stay home forever!!! ;)
Parents... Are you listening,please?
They also planned their annual Neighborhood Talent Show and their annual Neighborhood Yard Sale, just for the kids and the money was all theirs.
In-between, they learned how to garden, how to knit, stitch, sew, crochet, weave, climb trees, roller skate, build, and they honed their homemaking skills because everybody, and I DO mean, Everybody needs to know how to take care of him/herself.
To possess the skills necessary to become independent is a worthy goal, yes? How else will your son know how to do his laundry in college? How else will your daughter know how to change a tire? How will either know how to cook a decent meal so they don't get rickets from malnutrition?
Well, take a mother's word for it... It could happen!
I was lucky enough to be a stay-at-home Mom in the summer. I was the overseer, and the teacher, and the referee, but much of their day was spent with their peers, figuring out things, making plans -- BIG plans, practicing new skills and generally learning and doing what THEY wanted to do, not what the schools or Scouts or the Y told them to do.
Pretty neat, eh? :)
We also enjoyed going to drive-in movies with our freshly popped corn packed in a huge brown paper grocery bag and the leftover Koolaid from the afternoon drink stand.
Do they even have drive-in movies anymore? What a pity they were closed down because the land "out in the country" was no longer a distant place and the land got too valuable. Enter another strip mall. :(
The point I'm making here, dear Parent, is that decades ago, we still had very busy summers, but we were lucky that mostly we stayed home or went together as a family to lessons, field trips or new adventures.
Almost all of the above list cost us nothing monetarily. Time was what we spent; time is what the children needed. And if truth be known, it was just as good for us "big kids," too.
I sincerely hope you are able to spend more quality time with your child during the lazy, hazy days of Summer. Make time, if you have to, because remember what I say here: by tomorrow afternoon your child will be graduating from college.
Yes, it does go that fast!
Why not try keeping a Happy Book during this time? Both you and your child. A wise friend once told me that she kept a happy book. It contained hundreds of things she loved most -- things that made her smile and laugh. Each day, she made sure she did a few of the things in her happy book. This became a great way to replenish the energy consumed by the stresses of daily living.
To start your Happy Notes, and in case you and your family missed this spectacular vision of planet Venus passing before our Sun. It hasn't happened for 122 years. It happens in pairs, the second coming in 2012, eight years from now. But you look at this picture and if it doesn't take your breath away, well...
http://users.pandora.be/vcsb/dodi/sunquick2.jpg
The following is what I want you to discover for yourself, dear one. Slow down, take time, make some memories.
Http://thundercloud.net/acpressions/child-inside/
And this is how I feel about you and hope you will share the feeling with your child.
http://thundercloud.net/acpressions/butterflies/default.htm
Life is good! :) Remember, I love and value you, right here, right now, in all you do.
Love, Joan
P.s. On the 22nd I'm heading north to my Minnesota lake cottage. As I did last year, I'm taking the summer off from the EP eJournal. Time to fish and swim and rest. Except for some bulletins where I'll share a sunset or a big fish or a full moon, I won't be publishing till Fall.
I have several books to complete and that will be my business time, well spent, for the families I serve.
P.p.s. If you have young children or young grandchildren or know someone who does, raise your hand, please. Good!
I ask you to go visit my new web page devoted to the revised, expanded version of TEACH ME, I'M YOURS. Isn't the new bookcover outstanding? At the very bottom of that page you can download a F-R-*E-E TMIY Sampler, complete with a coloring page for the Liddle Kiddle. :) I had so much fun putting this together, and Sara Webmama created a fabulous new design. Go see for yourself, please. Then give it away to the World! Http://joanbramsch.com/book-teachme.html
P.p.p.s. Perhaps you have older children who love to cook and plan parties. Perhaps s/he'd like to see the brand new CATER YOUR WAY TO RICHE$ - new cover, expanded contents. Http://joanbramsch.com/books/cater.htm
Have a Safe Summer!
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Elder's Meditation of the Day
"Sell a country? Why not sell the air, the great sea, as well as the earth? Did not the Great Spirit make them all for the use of his children?"
--Tecumseh, SHAWNEE
The White Man's way is to possess, control and divide. It has always been difficult for Indian people to understand this. There are certain things we cannot own that must be shared. The Land is one of these things. We need to re-look as what what we are doing to the Earth. We are digging in her veins and foolishly diminishing the natural resources. We are not living in balance. We do not own the Earth; the Earth owns us. Today, let us ponder the true relationship between the Earth and ourselves.
Great Spirit, today, let me see the Earth as you would have me see Her.
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HELP PROTECT OUR WILDERNESS
Please go to
http://www.savebiogems.org/arctic/takeaction.asp?step=2&item=52141
and send a message telling your representative to oppose drilling in the Arctic
Refuge and to vote No on H.R. 4529 -- the bill that would authorize this
destruction.
Drilling in the Arctic Refuge would have absolutely no effect on today's gas
prices at the pump. Arctic oil would take 10 years to get to market and would
only amount to a tiny drop in the bucket of our nation's oil consumption -- not
nearly enough to impact prices.
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LIFE IS THE CAT'S PAJAMAS, LOVE IS THE BEE'S KNEES
Life's Loveable Instructions!
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Big Brother Invades Our Homes
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JOKE
The children were lined up in the cafeteria of a Catholic elementary school
for lunch. At the head of the table was a large pile of apples. The nun made
a note, and posted on the apple tray: "Take only ONE. God is watching."
Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end
of the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies. A child had written
a note, "Take all you want. God is watching the apples.
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WHAT THE BLEEP DO WE KNOW?
I hope to see this movie soon.
This is the most requested transcript from the movie "What The #$*! Do We Know?" http://www.whatthebleep.com/home/ And I have to say this process really works in remarkable ways!!!
I Create My Day
The most often referenced interview in the film is Dr. Joe Dispenza's comments on creating his day. In response to the numerous requests, the following is the transcript of that part of interview.
"I wake up in the morning, and I consciously create my day the way I want it to happen. Now, sometimes, because my mind is examining all the things that I need to get done, it takes me a little bit to settle down, and get to the point, of where I'm actually intentionally creating my day. But here's the thing."
"When I create my day, and out of nowhere, little things happen that are so unexplainable, I know that they are the process or the result of my creation. And the more I do that, the more I build a neural net, in my brain, that I accept that that's possible. Gives me the power and the incentive to do it the next day."
"So, if we're consciously designing our destiny, if we're consciously, from a spiritual standpoint, throwing in what the idea that our thoughts can affect our reality or affect our life, because reality equals life. Then, I have this little pact that I have when I create my day."
"I say, I'm taking this time to create my day, and I'm infecting the Quantum Field. Now, if it is in fact, the observer's watching me the whole time that I'm doing this, and there is a spiritual aspect to myself. Then, show me a sign today, that you paid attention to any one of these things that I created, and bring them in a way that I won't expect."
"So, I'm as surprised as the- as the- at my ability to be able to experience these things, and make it so that I have no doubt that its come from you. And so, I live my life, in a sense, all day long, thinking about being a genius, or thinking about being the glory and the power of God, or thinking about being Unconditional Love."
"I'll use living as a genius, for example. And as I do that, during parts of the day, I'll have thoughts that are so amazing, that cause a chill in my physical body, that have come from nowhere. But then, I remember that that thought has an associated energy, that's produced an effect in my physical body."
"Now, that's a subjective experience, but the truth is is that I don't think that unless I was creating my day to have unlimited thought, that that thought would come."
(Dr. Joe Dispenza in "What the #$BLEEP*! Do We Know!?" Http://www.whatthebleep.com/create/
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The Possibility of Miracles...
"The moment one gives close attention to anything, even
a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome,
indescribably magnificent world in itself."
- Henry Miller
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LETTER
Joan, I am so distressed. My sister's friend's husband is in the reserves and he's been called to
iraq. They have 3 kids. While he is overseas, he does NOT get his salary from his job. So the family is without income except what she will be able to provide after she finds daycare for the kids and care for her mother, who has alzheimer's and lives with them. No publicity about that
part of the great society! Our military is so abused! Makes my heart sick.
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And A Meadow Lark Sang
The child whispered, 'God, speak to me'
And a meadow lark sang.
The child did not hear.
So the child yelled, 'God, speak to me!'
And the thunder rolled across the sky
But the child did not listen.
The child looked around and said,
'God let me see you' and a star shone brightly
But the child did not notice.
And the child shouted,
'God show me a miracle!'
And a life was born but the child did not know.
So the child cried out in despair,
'Touch me God, and let me know you are here!'
Whereupon God reached down
And touched the child.
But the child brushed the butterfly away
And walked away unknowingly.
- Ravindra Kumar Karnani
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NOW HEAR THIS... SMACK!
Mosquito Remedy
Pass this on to anyone who likes sitting out in the evening or when
they're having a cook out. So you don't like those
pesky mosquitoes, especially now that they have the potential to carry
the West Nile Virus?
Here's a tip that was given at a recent gardening forum. Put some water
in a white dinner plate and add a couple drops of Lemon Fresh Joy dish
detergent. Set the dish on your porch, patio, or other outdoor area. Not
sure what attracts them, the lemon smell, the white plate color, or
what, but mosquitoes flock to it, and drop dead shortly after drinking
the Lemon Fresh Joy/water mixture, and usually within about 10 feet of
the plate. Check this out---it works just super!
May seem trivial, but it may help control mosquitoes around your home,
especially in the South and elsewhere where the West Nile virus is reaching
epidemic proportions in mosquitoes, birds, and humans.
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A good guru reminds you, G.U.R.U. - Gee you are you. Author Unknown
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LETTER
I hope that YOUR Mother's Day is everything that it should be and more, because God knows, YOU of all Mothers, deserve it!! Thank you for being the great inspiration, help and hope that you've been to me all these years. You honestly don't know how many times that you've pulled me through rough spots and kept me hanging in there. I am very grateful for you "Mother Joan!"
Your friend and protege forever,
Cindy
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HERE IS A FAVORITE POEM
Since we are intimately connected to everyone else in the universe, then it follows that attending to the needs of anyone ultimately redounds to our benefit. The Sufi poet Rumi put this concept in more lyrical language:
Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing,
there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase 'each other'
doesn't make any sense.
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Dear Michael,
Just completed your book. Excellent information and I am very glad you wrote the introduction chapters, too. You've packed a lot into those 99 pages. Love, Joan
http://www.500lovemakingtips.com/bonus.htm?hop=0
Dear Joan, Thanks for being willing to promote a sensitive, but very important subject.
Michael
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The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own. - Benjamin Disraeli
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LETTER
Dear Joan,
Thank you for EP. Your life is (not magic) but a miracle. I believe in miracles (and in you).
Love, Ellen
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A truly wise man never plays leapfrog with a unicorn. ...Nethack
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MONEY:
It can buy a House...............But not a Home
It can buy a Bed..................But not Sleep
It can buy a Clock................But not Time
It can buy you a Book..........But not knowledge
It can buy you a Position......But not Respect
It can buy you Medicine........But not Health
It can buy you Blood............But not Life
It can buy you Sex...............But not Love
So you see money isn't everything. And it often causes pain and suffering. I tell you all this because I am your Friend, and as your Friend I want to take away your pain and suffering......
So send me all your money..........And I will suffer for you.
CASH ONLY PLEASE!!!
Thought this was gonna be one of those "inspirational" ones, didn't you?
love, Joan
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LETTER
Dr. John D. Melville
>Subject: Thanks for the link
>Comments: Ms. Bramsch:
I noticed your link to the Akron Beacon Journal article about my time as a Med-Peds resident in Akron. Thank you so much for linkng my story. I fear at times that too many parents of disabled children sell their children short, either through not allowing them to try or by encouraging unrealistic expectations of being able to do \"anthing you want to do.\"
There are a certian number of people in this world who\'s view of reality does not include a disabled person finishing medical school and practicing medicine. It is always fun to meet these people and be introduced as Dr. Melville. The sudden shift in one\'s views about reality is rarely pleasent, but it is usually quite entertaining to watch.
To the extent that my story helps your parents better believe in the potential of their young, disabled children, our small efforts in recording it have been richly recompensed.
Thanks again for the link.
Sincerely,
John Melville, MD
Resident Physician
Akron General Medical Center, and
Children\'s Hospital of Akron
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Hi John,
Thanks for writing. I'm glad you're pleased. Best of all, I know how much your story will help EP Parents to help their children. When my five were young and we were out somewhere, like the mall or a public place, and we saw a disabled child, I taught them to go to them and talk to them. To let the child know we weren't simply going to stare. Sometimes the children asked questions. It seemed to be okay with the child. Sometimes we'd also talk to adults if they seemed approachable. If possible, we touched or shook hands. I always tho't this was very important because lots of people think a handicap is contagious! Big sigh.
As it turns out, my grown children are very active in their communities regarding all sorts of children. I feel blessed. Perhaps I did something right, eh? :)
Good luck in your profession, John, and happy anniversary this month. I shall publish our exchange here in the next EP Journal.
Love, Joan
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THREE LITTLE WORDS
3 Special Words
Dear John Doe
There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.
1. Let me help.
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways – that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3. I respect you.
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you". This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or
you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.
6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true
friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people.Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there". Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow theirdreams. Tell them to "go for it."
B o n u s:
11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words:"I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling, is gone.
12. GOD BLESS YOU!
(These are 3 words too, right?)
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Four All Who Reed and Right
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We'll begin with a box, and the plural is boxes;
but the plural of ox became oxen not oxes.
One fowl is a goose, but two are called geese,
yet the plural of moose should never be meese.
You may find a lone mouse or a nest full of mice;
yet the plural of house is houses, not hice.
If the plural of man is always called men,
why shouldn't the plural of pan be called pen?
If I spoke of my foot and show you my feet,
and I give you a boot, would a pair be called beet?
If one is a tooth and a whole set are teeth,
why shouldn't the plural of booth be called beeth?
Then one may be that, and three would be those,
yet hat in the plural would never be hose, and the plural of cat
is cats, not cose.
We speak of a brother and also of brethren,
but though we say mother, we never say methren.
Then the masculine pronouns are he, his and him,
but imagine the feminine, she, shis and shim.
Let's face it,
English is a crazy language.
There is no egg in eggplant,
nor ham in hamburger;
neither apple nor pine in pineapple.
English muffins weren't invented in England.
We take English for granted.
But if we explore its paradoxes,
we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square
and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea, nor is it a pig.
And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing,
grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham?
Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends,
but not one amend?
If you have a bunch of odds and ends
and get rid of all but one of them,
what do you call it?
If teachers taught,
why didn't preachers praught?
If a vegetarian eats vegetables,
what does a humanitarian eat?
Sometimes, I think all the folks who grew up speaking English
should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane.
In what other language do people recite at a play
and play at a recital?
Ship by truck and send cargo by ship?
Have noses that run and feet that smell?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same,
while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites?
You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which
your house can burn up as it burns down;
in which you fill in a form by filling it out
and in which an alarm goes off by going on.
~Author Unknown
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War cannot be humanized, it can only be abolished.
-- Albert Einstein
The ultimate oxymoron: "Holy War"
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FEED THE HUNGRY:
http://www.thehungersite.com
http://www.heifer.org/
FOR PEACE ON OUR PLANET: We are not going to be able to operate our Spaceship Earth successfully nor for much longer unless we see it as a whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody. -Buckminster Fuller
NEXT ISSUE: More encouragement from EP Parents' Cheerleader!
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In the meantime, here is an angel sent to watch over you for me.
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FROM BILL: We are Angels born with but one wing,
In order to fly we must embrace one another.
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Till next time, don't forget -- Parenthood is Wonder-filled!
Fondly, Joan
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